Humiliation is the only proper response to self destructive behaviors. No one has the power to shame you. Only you can decide whether to feel shame about something or not. Your feeling of shame is voluntary.
Whether we experience “shaming” by friends, family or co-workers due to our admirable progress with regards to fitness and/or weight loss—and their feeling threatened or shamed by our success—or due to the opposite, not making progress in fitness and/or weight loss—it’s our choice whether to shrug off their criticism, or not.
Those who have made the decision to allow themselves to deteriorate need to own this decision. For most, allowing their house or automobile to deteriorate to the point that their intended purpose to shelter or transport them was being irreversibly compromised, resultant criticism from others would be fully expected, like it or not. However, you can always buy a new car or house.
Your one and only body is not replaceable. Allowing it to deteriorate is a voluntary act. Pretending that your willful deterioration, your voluntary partaking in smoking, drinking, drugging, obesity and all the other self-destructive behaviors is excusable due to extenuating circumstances only compounds the humiliation. Genetics? Nope. Metabolism? Old age? Nope. Look at the guy pictured above. You think YOU have obstacles?
Yes, it is your fault. Yes, it is wholly your decision. Yes, your excuses make you look a fool. Yes, people are judging you for the awful things you choose to do to yourself. Yes, the world does judge us by what we do and how we look and that will never, ever change, so get used to it.
Claiming your entitlement to do and say whatever you want while demanding that others accommodate you, when at the same time you deny others their right to say and do what they want, is called hypocrisy.
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